5 Winning Strategies To Romance Your Disabled Partner
Dating is one of those human endeavors that is fraught with obstacles, insecurities, doubts and fears. This is especially so when one or both of the partners has a disability. There are a five simple strategies however that will ensure that you are always able to romance your disabled partner in a way that is fun, fulfilling and mutually satisfying and which ensure that your romantic life is not in any way hampered by your disability.
Be honest. Honesty is the best policy and in nowhere is this truer than when we are dating or romancing a love interest, especially in the very early stages of the relationship. It is important that you are honest with the person you are dating about yourself, your expectations and also your disability or disabilities. Lies have a way of being revealed or revealing themselves sooner or later and they can have a long lasting and detrimental effect on a relationship. It is important that you are always honest with the person you are dating right from the beginning regardless of whether you are seeking a long term or a short term relationship.
Be sober and drug free. There are many instances when you are meeting your love interest in restaurants, clubs and hotels that serve alcohol. It is always prudent to ensure that you do not drink too much or that you do not take drugs before or during a date. Being inebriated not only impairs your judgement but also creates a poor impression on your romantic interest. For a disabled person, having a little too much to drink can also lead to worsening of disability and make for a uncomfortable and tense date.
Always research your date locations. It is important that any places or venues where you have your dates with your disabled partner are accessible and within easy reach and use of your partner, bearing in mind their disability. Thus it would be unwise for example to have a date with a wheelchair bound date at at a place where there are stairs and no ramps or wheelchair accessible routes. This sensitivity to the partner's disability is important in that it not only shows how much you care for your partner but it also improves the comfort level of the dating partners and gives them a chance to concentrate on their romantic side of things and not expend a lot of energy and time on making the situation convenient or comfortable.
Be sincere. It is always important for someone dating a person with a disability to be sincere in terms of where they see the relationship going, and also be sincere about their feelings on the partner's disability. It is important to be sincere when giving reasons why you would like to continue or discontinue a relationship as this has am important impact on the partner's self esteem.
Finally it is always important to emphasize on the positive and minimize the negative aspects of the relationship and the disability. It is unfair for example to harp on about your athletic exploits when your partners suffers from a disability of the limbs. It is important to find areas of conversation and activities that are mutually enjoyable and achievable and minimize or completely avoid those that your partner is clearly disadvantaged in.